Self-Esteem Is An inside job

We often think of self-esteem as being caused by circumstance and how we compare with others, or how well we are doing in relation to others. In this video I offer the Energy-Flow perspective on how we can develop our self-esteem by looking inwards and reflecting out rather than the other way around.

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How Do You Deal With A Horrible Boss?

horrible bossI’ve just got off Skype with one of my coaching clients and she told me that she’s been having deeply uncomfortable experiences at work because of a horrible boss. She doesn’t know how to deal with the situation or how she feels.

On some occasions the boss can be really mean and on other occasions really pleasant. While I’m sure her boss is not consciously trying to manipulate; playing Jekyll and Hyde is straight out of the Effective Manipulation textbook. The outcome is that my client rationalizes away her uncomfortable emotions and does nothing to address the position she finds herself in. Continue reading

Chronic Fatigue Syndrome: The Ultimate MindBody Disease

fatgiue&painv2v6Here is an excellent guest blog post by my colleague, Rebecca Metro

Chronic Fatigue Syndrome is the ultimate mind/body disease, and provides a very clear illustration as to how the mind and body interact, creating either health (balance) or disease (imbalance). In CFS and other functional illnesses like Fibromyalgia, and Irritable Bowel Syndrome, the functioning of the HPA-AXIS is disrupted, causing overwork of the Hypothalamus,which in turns signals the sympathetic and immune systems to go into ‘overdrive’, causing debilitating symptoms. Continue reading

Why Are Our Kids So Stressed & Anxious?

Have you noticed that over the last several years the number of children and young people affected by symptoms of anxiety, depression, stress, headaches, stomach aches and other medically unexplained symptoms is growing at an alarming pace? I’ve certainly been surprised at the increasing numbers of young people I see in my practice.

Whether or not you are a parent, this upward trend is worrying because we have to conclude that this is a reflection on us, on our society and culture.

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Are You Sensitive?

sensitivityIf you are, you probably know what it’s like to feel overwhelmed, bombarded, overloaded, even confused and lost from time to time. You may feel that you don’t fit in, that you’re different from others and that you sometimes don’t understand life at all. 

In Western culture, sensitivity is seen as a weakness, something to suppress, to anesthetize. Yet isn’t it interesting that if we were talking about a piece of machinery or technology, the notion of sensitivity would be seen in a positive light. A better quality machine is more sensitive because it is more able to detect, to calibrate, so it is more functional and purposeful.  Continue reading

Where Are Your Memories?

How much time would you say you spend thinking, going over things that have happened, old conversations and situations, or ‘what if-ing’ about future events or circumstances: “What if this happens?” or “What if that doesn’t happens?” “What if she says this, or if he says that?” ”What if I can’t cope? What if I can’t do it? What if I get it wrong? What if they don’t like me? What if I’m not good enough?” Sound familiar?  Continue reading

Is Anxiety Simply Amplified Fear, or is it Actually Something Else?

anxietybannerHave you noticed most people use the words anxiety and fear to mean the same thing? This is because there are overlaps in the physical sensations that people experience with fear and anxiety — but does that mean they are the same? 

Mainstream medicine, psychiatry and psychology often acknowledge a minor difference. They suggest that anxiety is a set of responses to an unknown or ill-defined threat, whereas fear is a set of responses to a precise, well-defined treat. In terms of brain activity, anxiety and fear are reported to be in different parts of the brain but largely end up in the same place. Both involve the amygdala, the hypothalamus and the brain stem.  Continue reading