We often think of self-esteem as being caused by circumstance and how we compare with others, or how well we are doing in relation to others. In this video I offer the Energy-Flow perspective on how we can develop our self-esteem by looking inwards and reflecting out rather than the other way around.
I’ve just got off Skype with one of my coaching clients and she told me that she’s been having deeply uncomfortable experiences at work because of a horrible boss. She doesn’t know how to deal with the situation or how she feels.
On some occasions the boss can be really mean and on other occasions really pleasant. While I’m sure her boss is not consciously trying to manipulate; playing Jekyll and Hyde is straight out of the Effective Manipulation textbook. The outcome is that my client rationalizes away her uncomfortable emotions and does nothing to address the position she finds herself in. Continue reading
Without doubt there has felt like an added amplification or intensity to life this month. This has sent many people spiraling as emotions and thoughts run wild.
For those suffering from a health challenge, symptoms may have increased and it may be difficult to figure out why.
The first thing to say is that you are not alone. If it feels like life has been turned on its head, allow yourself to roll with it. Don’t resist how you feel but do stay present. There is nothing to solve, you don’t have to figure out or rationalize your feelings at this time, simply feel them and trust yourself – trust your core. Continue reading
I received this great question in response to one of the videos in my new Conquer Depression series and decided to answer it in a blog post:
Question: ‘Redirect… into being present.’ I agree that when I connect with ‘core essence’ I feel/am alive…utterly alive. Disconnection feels like playing at being ‘me.’ But! How does one maintain that connection while also engaging in the everyday? Continue reading
As I prepare to release my new Conquer Depression Program, I’d like to share some insights about this new program through my written blog and video series in the coming weeks. The intention is to share my thinking on the nature of health and wellness and crucially why need a rethink and change of direction if we are to gain mastery of wellbeing. This mastery begins with a deeper understanding of the nature of who we are; so to begin with, let me pose some questions… Continue reading
Do you find that you get caught up in your head — thinking, churning and ruminating? If the answer is yes and you were to proceed along the generally accepted route for dealing with your negative thinking, you would find yourself challenging and battling your thinking, getting stuck in to change your negative thoughts to positive thoughts. Does this work? In my experience this is a fairly low quality option. Why? Because, it involves more thinking and that generally leaves us feeling worse, and requires a significant amount of energy and practice. So what’s the answer? Continue reading
I was asked the other day what I do to de-stress. On the face of it this seems a perfectly reasonable question. Everyone gets stressed…and therefore everyone needs to do something to de-stress, don’t they?
When I was asked this I was slightly stumped because I don’t do anything to de-stress. Sure, I train at the gym, I play guitar in a rock band, I hang out with friends, and I have a ton of fun with my wife and daughters. But I don’t do these things to de-stress. Why is it that I don’t need to de-stress, when from what I can tell everyone else does? Continue reading
What if where you placed your attention – what you look at, think about, talk about, listen to, and interact with – had a massive impact on your experience of life?
As human beings we are both receivers and transmitters of energy. The frequency and vibration we transmit or radiate has a significant impact on our experience of life and what seems to show-up in our lives.
From our eyes to our hearts we literally send packets of energy out into the quantum soup of life. Continue reading
One of the most common assumptions I encounter is the idea that feeling follows thinking, and that in order to alleviate uncomfortable or stressful feelings you need to change your thinking. In fact, there is an entire industry based on this idea. The strategies and techniques that fall out of this theory operate on the notion that all emotions follow thought, so if you change your thinking you will change your emotions. The implication being that changing your thinking and adopting a positive mental attitude will help alleviate stress, discomfort, and emotional turmoil, and enable you to experience a happy life. Continue reading
I’m not going to be a total smartass and tell you to simply avoid drinking. My intention with this blog post is to give you some insight and opinion on how and when to drink in order to minimize your chances of a nasty hangover. There is plenty of nutritional advice on what to eat to recover from a hangover, but this information is proactive, this is about knowing how and when to drink.
This is not a normal topic for me to be writing about, and it’s not a regular topic that arises in my client sessions. However, earlier this week at the end of a session with one of my personal mentoring clients, I was asked this question. Continue reading